Claire Judd

Therapist for Maternal Anger, Rage & Overwhelm

You love your child beyond words, but there's a rage inside you that just keeps spilling over. You're exhausted from trying to contain it and it leaves you feeling awful at the thought of the impact it's having on your child.

Take bedtime...you've done the routine, the stories, the water, the extra cuddle. You've said goodnight and go to leave but they're clinging on, wanting more of you but you just don't have more to give.

You've already been feeling it...the tension in your shoulders, gritting your teeth, digging your nails in to the palms of your hands, desperately trying to contain the anger you feel swelling up inside you.

But that should have been the end of bedtime, and suddenly you can't contain it any longer. The rage rushes up, and screams out of you "JUST GO TO SLEEP!", you yank them off you and storm out the room, heart racing. You just need to get out.

And as the rage subsides, you hear them crying and think "why can't I just cope?!"

If this feels familiar to you, I'm so glad you're here.

I'm Claire and I help mums understand their rage so they can soften their reactions to their children, without losing the fierce, passionate part of themselves that was never the problem.

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The UK's leading maternal anger specialist

You're talking to someone who has made this their life's work, it's all I do. Which means when you walk in, you're not explaining yourself to someone who half understands.

It's more than talking

We don't stop at understanding. Together we go deep, we do the real work, and that's what actually changes how you show up for yourself and your children.

The reaction changes & so does everything after it

Less guilt. Less replaying. More of those moments where you catch yourself thinking, actually, I handled that well. That's what this work gives you.

Here's what I want you to know about anger as a mum...

The rage, the guilt, the approaching bedtime like you're going into combat with the aim of just getting in and out as quickly as possible; none of it means you're not cut out for this.

It's just that right now, you've been cracked open. By systems that don't support you in motherhood, by gender roles that are leaving you feeling resentful and by the fact you're trying to parent in a way you were never parented.

Motherhood has this way of bringing up everything we never dealt with, everything we've 'coped' with, everything we never even knew was there.

It can make us feel like we're failing at the most important thing we've ever done. But it also gives us the opportunity for immense growth...as an individual and as a mum. This is one of the reasons I love working with mums experiencing anger and rage, because that anger is coming from a part of you that isn't ready to settle for how things currently are.

It's your fight, your fire. Yes it's currently aimed at your children, but when we work together it doesn't stay that way...

♢ Bedtime still has chaos in it, but there's giggling too, and you're actually there for it.

♢ You sit with a crying child and your body doesn't scream at you to get away.

♢ You catch yourself at the end of the day replaying the moment you got it right, instead of torturing yourself with the one you didn't.

Something in you starts coming back. The lightness. The laughter. The feeling that your house isn't a place where everyone's quietly waiting for the next explosion.

And you see things differently. You're no longer going to take the BS from a society that said you could have it all but didn't tell you that it would leave with no energy to actually do anything with it.

You're going to do things your way, with a fire in your belly that paves the way for a better way of living for you and a better life for your children.

What does working together look like?

"I thought I was such an awful mum, it took me so long to come to see you because I was just so ashamed. but I view myself so differently now. I'm so much more gentle with him, and I'm sure it's because I'm more gentle with myself"

Mum of 2 year old

"I came wanting strategies to cope with it all, and yes we explored some strategies, but it wasn't that that helped, it was being really, truly listened to and understood. Claire allowed me to get to my emotions when I felt ready, she helped it feel less scary and now I feel so much more secure in sharing that part of myself. I'm no longer bottling it up and anger is no longer exploding out of me."

Mum of 7 & 4 year old

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Hi, I'm Claire

Specialist maternal anger therapist and mum who has absolutely hurled a toy across the room in rage.

I know what it's like to lose it over something small and spend the rest of the day feeling like the worst mum alive. I know what it's like to book a first therapy session and wonder if it can actually help.

That's what brought me to this work. And it's what I bring to every session.

After my initial training in counselling & psychotherapy, I knew I wanted something more for my clients, something that was a game-changer when I was in the thick of that reactive energy. So I created an integrative approach that holds space for thoughts and feelings but also works with the body, for those moments when you 'understand why, but don't feel different'. It's the kind of therapy that goes beyond talking and into the deeply felt change.

But more than any of that?

I'm not going to look at you with shock when you tell me you screamed or got too rough, or you tell me about the overwhelming feeling you get to throw them off you when they need comfort...because I know that's a symptom of what you're currently carrying, not a defining aspect of who you are.