Underneath The Anger:

The one thing that changes everything

A free masterclass for mums who are ready to understand their anger and be there for themselves and their children

Claire Judd, Therapy for mum rage, therapy harrogate, how to stop shouting

You snapped again this morning.

You're just trying to leave the house and be on time. You felt it rising. You gritted your teeth. Your voice started to change in tone. You tried willing yourself to just breathe, the voice in your head scrambling between "they're just children" and "Why won't they listen?!"

And then, it explodes out…

"JUST. GET. YOUR. SHOES. ON."

Or maybe it didn't come out in words. Perhaps it was a grip on their arm that was harder than you meant. Maybe it was the way you forced them to sit down just a little too firmly. Maybe it was the wave of wanting to physically shove them off your body.

And then eventually you're in the car and they're quiet, too quiet. You look in the rearview mirror at their little face and the shame hits you so fast you can hardly breathe.

What kind of mum gets this angry?

Why can't I just hold it together?

I love them so much.

So why do I feel like this?

Here's what nobody is telling you:

The anger isn't the problem. The problem is what’s driving it.

And the driver started long before you had children. You've been containing it for so long. Pushing through. Ignoring every signal your body has been sending. Telling yourself you're fine, it's fine, everyone's fine.

But contained anger doesn't disappear. It just waits.

It waits until the shoes. Until the millionth mummy. Until the small hand pulls your sleeve one more time and there is simply nothing left.

The explosion isn't who you are. It's what happens when a woman who has been running on empty for years finally hits a wall and the only people in the room are the ones she loves most.

This isn't you failing. This is what happens to a woman who was never taught that she mattered too.

Hi, I'm Claire

I'm a psychotherapist who specialises in working with mums experiencing anger and rage. Not because I think you should never lose it, you’re human and rage is part of that! But because I’ve sat with enough women in his exact place to know that the anger is never about the bedtime that goes tits up.

Underneath is always something far more important.

And there’s a way through this that doesn’t involve more breathing exercises or earlier bedtimes. It starts with understanding what’s actually underneath it. That’s exactly what we’re doing together in this masterclass.

Claire Judd, Therapy for mum rage, therapy harrogate

This is for you if:

You love your children fiercely and still find yourself losing it in ways that scare you.

You're tired of being told to breathe through it, count to ten, or just get more sleep.

You've googled "why am I so angry at my kids?" at 11pm and felt completely alone in it.

You know something needs to change but you don't know where to start.

You’re ready to understand what’s really going on and stop just managing the symptoms of it.

It's an hour that reframes everything.

Not because we’ll fix it in 60 minutes, but because once you understand what’s actually underneath it, you can’t unknow it. And that’s where the real change begins.

The following morning, when you’re trying to get out of the door and you feel it rising, you’ll have something you didn’t have before.

🌟 Enough to feel the tension in your shoulders and jaw before it becomes a reaction.

🌟 Enough to feel the physical urge that comes with simmering rage, and let it pass through you rather than out of you and on to them.

🌟 And then, the rearview mirror. Their little face. And instead of shame, something lighter. Something that says: I know what that was. And I’m doing something about it.

That gap, that tiny moment of noticing, is where everything starts to change.

This isn’t a lecture. It won’t be another hour of being told what to do.

What I’ve found, after years of sitting with women in this place, is that what’s missing isn’t another coping strategy. It’s understanding this piece of the puzzle. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

And that’s when things actually shift.

We'll sit together, share honestly, and I'll give you that piece.

A space to breathe. To be honest. To type the thing you've never said out loud, and watch a room full of women say me too.

Kind words from clients

"I’m going to try and keep a 30 minute slot once a week for a little while where I think ‘what would I be discussing in therapy this week? What does that mean I need? and the big one: WWCS? (what would Claire say?). Thank you so much for helping me start to trust myself as a mum to xxxx"

"I had a lot of therapy before becoming a mum but the rage I felt, especially at bedtimes was intense. My whole body feels lighter now, and my reactions are nothing compared to what they were, I trust myself with my children and I never thought I'd say that..."

If any of this has felt uncomfortably familiar, the shoes, the rearview mirror, the shame that arrives before you’ve even caught your breath, this is for you.

It’s free.

It’s an hour.

And it might just be the most important thing you do for yourself and your children this year.