Mum Rage Revolution: The Vault

A therapist in your pocket. Think private podcast, totally free

You know that moment after a messy bedtime when everyone's finally asleep and you're sitting there replaying it? The way your voice sounded, the look on their face, the thoughts rolling in that maybe you’re not cut out for this?

Most mums sit alone in that moment convincing themselves they're getting this all wrong, determined to try harder the next day, but when the next day comes the same thing happens...anger erupts...again.

You've landed here because you're not that mum. You want to show up softer with your children, you just don't know how right now.

That's what The Vault is here for.

It's going to change how you show up for your children, and for yourself.

The Vault is for you if...

🌱 You're done comparing yourself to other mums and ready to actually understand why you react the way you do, because you know it doesn't really matter what anyone else is or isn't doing.

🌱 You want to break the cycle, for yourself and your children, because you know that when you understand your anger, your children get to understand theirs too.

🌱 You're at the beginning of this journey and you want somewhere that meets you gently, builds your understanding over time and makes you feel less alone every single time you listen.

🌱 You're ready for something that goes deeper than "take a deep breath" because you know that the real change happens underneath the surface, and you’re ready to explore.

🌱 Therapy might not feel like a possibility right now, but you also know sitting with this alone isn't working.

So you tune into The Vault where you have immediate access to insight, understanding and honesty that helps you make sense of anger instead of drowning in it.

Hi, I'm Claire

I'm a psychotherapist specialising in maternal anger and rage. For me The Vault is personal, heart led, but it's also a passionate mission to change how we view anger in society.

It's both for you, a past version of me, and the next generation.

I've worked with and through my anger, and actually I've come to love it as an emotion, but when I had my first child I was so deeply consumed by guilt and shame that reaching out for support felt impossible.

The Vault would have changed so much for me.

The Vault exists because I know that insight and understanding doesn't always need an hour in therapy (yep, a therapist actually saying that!). Sometimes all it takes is a few minutes of someone who gets it, reminding you that your anger makes sense, that you're doing more right than you think, that the shame spiral you're in right now has a way out.

And I know having that at 9pm after a bedtime that went tits up, after you've been clung to at drop off while rage surged through your body, or in the five minutes you've stolen in the bathroom, can make the world of difference to how the rest of your day or evening goes.

That's what this is for.

For the moments you don’t want to feel alone, and for the moments you have a bit more time and really want to understand what’s going on.

"The level of compassion I felt from you was huge. Starting therapy felt like such a huge leap, one that actually terrified me, but how I was reacting was scaring me more so I took the plunge. I'm so glad I did, having that space to be honest and really start to understand myself has changed so much for me. I'm no longer this scary monster I saw myself as. You've given me so much."

Mum of 2 & 5 year old

"Ending therapy has actually been one of the hardest things I've had to do. I've loved it so much. Yes, there's been times I didn't want to go, times when I thought you might not be able to help me, but there's also been so much laughter which I never expected. I love that you would always answer my many many questions honestly, looking back I think it was one of the main things that helped me share as much as I did. I know I'm a perfectly imperfect mum, things will go wrong, I'll feel all sorts of emotions, and none of it means I'm failing my boys."

Mum of 4 and 6 year old

What is The Vault and What's Inside?

This is a private telegram channel, completely free. Think private podcast, totally focused on anger in motherhood.

A few times a week I drop an audio into the channel, sometimes it’ll be 5 minutes, or sometimes something meatier for when you have proper time to sit with it, reflect, and really understand what's going on underneath your reactions.

The actual content will vary...informative, reflective, compassionate, motivational...sometimes I'll bring in what's going on in my own life and how I'm dealing with it, it might be commentary about something in the news or about research into motherhood and anger.

And better yet, no one will even know you're in there. Only I will know, and even then only by the name you have given. There's no commenting available, just the option to drop a totally anonymous emoji. So if that voice in your head that's saying you're an awful human being for reacting the way you do around your child is really loud right now, it doesn't have to stop you from joining this.

Which is really part of the aim of The Vault...to give you an quiet way to ease that voice in your head that tells you you're not good enough, help you understand your anger so it softens and so you feel equipped to deal with those tough moments - whether that's the meltdown your child just had because you peeled the banana wrong (despite doing it exactly as they asked) or when you're feeling so alone with it all you're crying in the shower so no one hears.

No schedule. No pressure. Totally anonymous to anyone else who has signed up.

Just the ability to tune into relevant, honest and actually useful information when you need it.