1:1 Therapy for Mums

There's talking therapy and then there's talking therapy that gently goes deep for lasting change. This is the latter.

It's voicing the things you're unlikely to say out loud to someone close to you, because it feels safe to do so...

"I grabbed her arm the other day, really grabbed it, too hard"

"I feel energy travel down my arms and I have to physically stop myself from lashing out, I worry that one day I won't be able to stop it"

"Sometimes I think it would be easier to parent by myself"

"I find myself day dreaming about what life would have been like if I hadn't had children"

It's exploring the things that your body and mind are still holding on to from the past...how big emotions were dealt with when you were a child, who cared for you and accepted you just as you were, what you had to deal with on your own because the adults in your life didn't work out how to handle life with a child.

It's acknowledging the world you are parenting in that makes you feel like you're failing...the expectation that you parent like you don't work and work like you don't parent; the damned if you do, damned if you don't situations of work vs SAHM, breastfeeding vs formula, co-sleep vs sleep train, school vs home school. The gender roles that become so much more pronounced when it's you taking the career break, holding the emotions of the children and organising all the life admin that comes with parenting.

And crucially, it's re-learning how to listen to your body and feel safe with the very natural emotions it feels in a world that encourages you to just pull your socks up and push through. It's a space to pause, breathe, lower your shoulders and teach your body that it's okay to do this.

All of this together helps you tune into your reactions quicker, hit pause and respond in ways you want to rather than a place of overwhelm. It means when you say to your child "it's okay to cry" and they know you mean it because they've seen you be okay with your own tears, and they feel you there for them rather than shutting them down.

It's the difference between you and your children feeling on edge 24/7 and having a relationship together that you feel proud of.

1:1 therapy for anger is ideal for you if:

♢ You love your children fiercely and yet still have reactions that sometimes scare you

♢ You keep trying parenting tools but they never seem to work...gentle parenting scripts that you end up hissing through gritted teeth, new bedtime routines that feel great when you first start but eventually end up with you digging your nails into the palm of your hands until you can't contain the urge to scream and get out of the room...and you know there's something deeper going on.

♢ You want to sit with your children and really listen to them...when they're reaching for more connection at bedtime, when they're having big emotions and need you to be there for them without being carried away by your own emotions, or when life is throwing hurdles and you want to stay true to the things that matter.

♢ You're ready to gently explore your own patterns, childhood and the world you're parenting in for the longer term benefit of knowing your future teen will trust you to hold the big emotions of the friendship issues they're navigating or feel comfortable telling you the scary thing that happened to them at that party, because long ago you stopped reacting from a place of survival and started responding with curiosity...to yourself and them.

♢ You might feel wary of starting therapy (or trying therapy again) but there's a bigger part of you who knows this is what you need and that this therapy might be the one that changes how you feel. (It is!)

♢ You're ready to commit to showing up for yourself not just in sessions, but in day to day life.

Book Therapy with Claire

Messages from Past Clients

"Blown my mind"

"It's blown my mind how being listened to, like really listened to, has helped me with how I was feeling about the birth. I was so angry and I just didn't understand why. You helped me see why I was stuck where I was and I'm so grateful about how gentle you were with the scarier bits. I'm now starting to move forward and be kinder to myself too!"

Mum to 3yr old & 6month old

"My emotions don't control me anymore"

"Before working with Claire, I felt constantly on edge, like I was reacting before I even knew why. Now, I can pause and understand what’s happening inside me. I still feel all the emotions, but they don’t control me anymore because they feel so much less overwhelming. I feel calmer, more present, and more myself."

Mum to 5yr old

"I'm making conscious choices"

"Working with Claire helped me see how my own childhood shaped the way I parent. I was so fixed on not repeating the childhood I had, that I was inadvertently repeating the patterns! I feel so much less reactive now, I feel like I'm making a conscious choice about how I show up as a mum."

Mum to 2 yr old